An incredible amount of hard feelings and conflict could be avoided if husbands would resolve not to make any decision affecting their wives and the rest of their families without first getting their wives’ consent.
– From “It Takes Two to Tango” by Gary and Norma Smalley
Consent means to ask for permission or to affirm. I like the word affirm better. When my hubby is planning for something, it makes me feel confident, honored, loved and secure when he gets my consent before going with his plan.
It’s a way for the husband to show honor to his wife.
Most men are stubborn and too prideful and they rather not. This can create a lot of strife and closing of spirit in the wife, which eventually leads to bitterness and resentment.
When you marry, you become a unit. The “I” and “you” become, or should become “we.” Two shall become one. That’s a cute statement but the becoming part takes work and collaboration from both parties. It requires selfless love which includes getting wive’s consent and same is true for wives should seek husband’s consent.
How else would the wife feel honored and respected if the husband went ahead with his own plans without considering talking about it with his other half?