It’s not who you know but how well do you know them?
With all the social media connections, most of us have 200+ friends on our friends list but we don’t even know 5 of them very well. We’re lacking in connection. Even the posts we posts aren’t really anything about us or our lives, it’s just mostly shallow and plastic.
We live in a plastic society where people are walking around with masks.
We don’t have a clue about each others heartaches or celebrations because when asked how we are, we answer “I’m fine,” and How are things? “Everything is good.” In the meantime, we’re falling apart on the inside but me numb ourselves by loud music, parties, drugs, couple of glasses of wine, and surface conversations and we call it “privacy.”
Some of us don’t share because we believe it will get jinxed, others don’t share because they want “privacy,” or we just assume no one really cares.
We lack involvement, engagement, trust and CONNECTION and therefore there is no friendship value or rewards of good friendships.
We have all these types and forms of communications yet there is no real communication.
For those of us who want to get connected here is what you can do about it.
1. Look at your Facebook friends and make a list of your top 5 friends.
Relationships of shared virtue, according to Aristotle, are the ones that bring true happiness. Focus on these relationships
2. Now that you have your top 5 friends. For each one, write all the things you love about them and why. Then make it an effort to let them know today and every day!
3. In what ways do they influence you and make you a better person?
4. How do they inspire you?
5. How often do you hang out together?
Excuses are cheap. Go out of your way to let them know how special they are to you. Grow deeper in your friendships!